I've always had a great respect for parents, but never so much as I have today.

I've known for many years that parents have to make tough decisions and handle difficult circumstances with gentle resolve.

I've suspected that this would at times be difficult. But I had no idea.

After this morning, I've determined that it's apparent I've never been a parent.

Oh, I've been an arm-chair quarterback on many occasions. As a pastor, people have come to me with questions, seeking advice. I've quoted to them from Scripture and from books I've read on the subject. But I've never been in a position to test my theories in the real world. Or - more to the point - to test whether I could actually apply my theories in the real world.

You see, I discovered today that when you find yourself thrust into the middle of a situation, suddenly the human factor comes into play, and now you're not dealing with theory or speculation. Now your calm resolve is challenged by the emotional stress of the moment and you are confronted with your own human condition with all its weaknesses and imperfections.

We had a situation in our house this morning in which I completely failed in my role as a step-father. I totally missed the full dynamic of what was happening, resorted to an attitude of righteous indignation, and proved beyond any shadow of doubt how truly clueless I am on the parental front.

This was painted in vivid hues as I observed my wife - the experienced parent. Watching her - and listening - I saw her doing all the things that I wished I had done, the things that I, in the safety of my office, would have suggested to others.

In resolute serenity, my wife handled the situation - the original one - as well as the static that I was injecting. Not once did she lose her composure. Not once did she permit her emotions to take charge or derail her from attending to the circumstances at hand.

It's true that, as a step-father, I'm not really a parent. But I'm married to one. And that puts me in a position to have some responsibilities related to parenthood.

But I have sooo much to learn.

Thank God I have a really good example whom I shall study with awe and wonder.

My darling Bride, I love you!