Jan 08 2007, 3:30 am - By redraefirefly

Friday night I found out my son was being molested by a 12 boy i watch... did all the right things....called police, ambulance, ... everyone. my home is falling apart. My son's father walked in on it and he doesn't sleep, eat,... he is broken. Both of my son's keep throwing up and have no flu symptoms.... I am fantasizing about murdering the other boy who I have known since birth. The four of us(my family) need urgent prayers.... the tears keep flowing. HOW DO WE EVEN BEGIN TO HEAL?

Jan 08 2007, 6:30 am - Replied by: sparrow7

Good Morning, I've been posting my testimonies to my blogs and it has been somewhat of a struggle, but I think one of them might help you. You see my Dad was living with us (my girls were 2 1/2yrs and 5yrs old). My Dad was my hero, my heart throb but one Sat. I felt led to leave my job and rush home...I had taken my girls to the sitter so I wasn't worried about them. However, I walked in and long story made short my Dad was raping my 2 1/2 yr old. The rest of that day has totally been blacked out..I don't remember a thing. The next morning, I had someone pick my girls up for Church and I was hurting, words will never show how crushed I was..my heart hurt so bad. My girls got home and my 2 1/2 yr old told me her "papa" had tried to put his private in her private. You'll have to read my blog..the one called "forgivness" then read "memorial letter to my Dad". He spent over a year in jail and was released per my request to the judge..tho I never missed a Sunday visiting him in jail. He was told never to return to Ga. again so he went to LasVegas to live with my brother. I flew out when he was on his deathbed and did his hospice care..he got saved before he passed on. However, dealing with the pain is what my blogs deal with so please read them as they might help you. Much love in Christ Jesus and you're in my prayers, Sparrow7~

Jan 08 2007, 8:04 am - Replied by: Dove7

Thank You Sparrow for writing this to her, I went on last night when it was first placed on there, and I thought about you and what you had told me earlier, I have been up waiting to tell you about this,/ and see if you could comfort her, so I went about doing different things on here,

And when I came back you were like and Angel had put all of it down there for her.

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Now to the Mother of the Devastated Family.......

Yes, I prayed, and Prayed for this situation for the whole family as it was torn apart. Wow the devastation you & your husband must feel, but know we are all here praying for you and the Family.

And on my page, there is a sight for abused children you might want to check that out, .....I put it  on because there are a lot of teenagers on here and might need to tell someone, and don't know how, so that if they needed to tell anyone, they can just go to that site.

It might help you also too.

Love in Christ Jesus

Dove7.................................Leigh

and know we are still praying.

Jan 08 2007, 9:00 am - Replied by: windwalker

redraefirefly wrote: Friday night I found out my son was being molested by a 12 boy i watch... did all the right things....called police, ambulance, ... everyone. my home is falling apart. My son's father walked in on it and he doesn't sleep, eat,... he is broken. Both of my son's keep throwing up and have no flu symptoms.... I am fantasizing about murdering the other boy who I have known since birth. The four of us(my family) need urgent prayers.... the tears keep flowing. HOW DO WE EVEN BEGIN TO HEAL?

 

      Mam the first thing you need to do is ( as hard as it is ) is to forgive the 12 year old boy.......I know i know but i want to kill him . God sais if you forgivie your enemies he will bless you . So just keep in mind if you forgive the boy god will make going through this a lot easeier....

Jan 08 2007, 10:47 am - Replied by: Roxe

My heart goes out to you and your family, my friend.  I know how your son is feeling right now because I was tortured and molested from the young age of 5 until I was 9.  I am 46 and still cannot talk about it without crying.

Please get counseling for your family.  This is very important.  Maybe your pastor will be willing to counsel your family and help you work through this.   I didn't have that option and truly believe that it would have helped me. 

By all means, do what you have to do to insure that this boy doesn't do this to any others.  You need to forgive him, but you also need to protect others from him. 

I am praying for you and your family. 

Jan 08 2007, 1:19 pm - Replied by: fogwalker

HELLO I MET WIFE BACK IN 95 AND SHE HAD 2 KIDS a 2 yr old girl and a 3 yr old boy and when they were about 4 and five they to were molested by a 15 ye old boy.and although they wernt my kids my by blood but i felt as you do i wanted to kill the 15 yr old boy infact i had his neck in my hands and my dad had to seperate me from him.i firmly beleive i would have killed him i hated him soo much for what hes done it was very hard to deal with and it took me awhile to cope with it. after the 15 yr old boy was released from his time in jail he came over to my moms house and i went over there not knowing he was there. it took everything i had to forgive him but i did and after i did a peace came over me.and i soon found out there after that the 15 year old boy also was being molested by an older man.im so glad my dad was there that day,so i did not take that lil boys life. and nathan and hillry are doing good this day they are MY kids and i love as they are my own the wife and i have a soon to be 2 yr old boy and a just turned 5 girl and i love them all the same. today hillary is doing very well in school she wants to be a surgeon shes takeing classes that are ahead of her class and natan is about to turn 16 and getting ready to find a job he hes very talented when it comes to music he can play the drum,keyboard and guiter he wants to be a rapper. :O)..i ask that everyone prays for your situation and that of the 12 yr old boy.it is hard i know but i can cope with you and know what you are going thru. that 12 yr old may be in trouble as well.

i pray the lord bless you this day and i lift up this whole situation loose angels upon her this day lord to comfort and guide her give your the strength to forgive and the will to keep her eyes fixed on you JESUS, i lift her family up to you lord to bring them closer together in this situation to lift on another up. i bind the hands of satan from any further harm in this situation we all come into agreement and take authrity over you satan and command you to flee..in JESUS mighty name

and AND WE ALL SAID

 

 

 

 

please read these:

psalms 145:18-19

Isaiah 41:10 

Jan 08 2007, 5:53 pm - Replied by: PastorKristin

Healing from trauma like this can be very difficult but I know that if you call on the name of the Lord He will help you and your family through this time.

I worked as a counselor for families in crisis before I became a pastor.  I have seen things, heard things and had things happen to me that I would not wish any one to go through.  Before this I myself was molested from ages 3 or 4 to 8 or 9.  I would love to share with you the steps I took for healing. 

It took many years before I remembered what happened to me.  I was in high school doing a report and began screaming in the library...something I read trigered a memory.  I grew up in the church so I figured I was going to hell because of what had happened to me.  I was taken to the school counselor and they had to tell my parents what my uncle had done.  The first thing that happened was shock by my parents... my dad withdrew and confronted my molestor and my mom went in to greiving because it was her favorite uncle.  This was not helpfull.  It only made me withdraw more so they took me to a secular counselor who made me feel even worse about my self and more embarassed and my parents withdrew more. 

It would have helped me alot if my parents could have held me and told me that they still loved me and that it wasn't my fault.  Instead I had to wait untill college when I was working in Yellowstone national park and totally issolated to begin to heal.  I relied on no one but Jesus at that time.

Above these steps... cry out to the Lord!

Step 1, tell your children that it is not their fault and let them know that you still love them. 

Step 2, pray with your children.  Pray for God to deliver them from all trauma and hurt that has to do with this event.  Break off all spiritual bondage from your children.  Do not let them be oppressed by satan who likes to take advatage of these things to put curses on them.  Rather take spiritual authority over this situation and comand satan to leave your children alone.

Step 3, pray for forgiveness for the offender.  I was not released from my post-traumatic syndrome untill I did this.  I know it is hard to do and many times we go through the steps to forgive but they just come out as words.  You have to really mean what you are saying.  That doesn't mean that you forget what happened or that you don't press charges.  It is important that you let God be the judge and pray that the molester will come to the Lord through the punishment they recieve. 

Step 4, If you are still having problems in your family after everyone has forgiven the molester and been prayed over seek a Christian Counselor or a pastor to work through what your family is going through.  Often times parents need counseling even more then the children.    Make sure that the counselor you choose practices Biblical counseling and can pray with you and fill you with the word.

Since your children are physically manifesting the stress they are under by throwing up.  You may want to do a time of fasting a praying for them. It doesn't have to be a full on fast....just fast something wether it is a tv show or a certain type of food.  Fasting will help you to feel more at peace where you can help your family more through the strength of God.  Remember that when we are weak He is strong.

I am so sorry this happened to your family!  You will be in my prayers!  I pray above all that God will give you an overcoming testamony that will break the chains of bondage in all that hear it.  I know that God has good things planed for your family and that if you hold on to Jesus he will pull you through.  It may be hard to see what God can do...but believe the word that God will make all things work for good according to His plans!

Hold on to Jesus!

Be strong!

Know you are not alone!

Do not let fear take over your family!

God is with you even know.  I pray that His loving arms with hold you close and that you will be surrounded by men and women of God who will interceed on your behalf as you go through this time!

In Yeshua,

Pastor Kristin

Jan 10 2007, 5:08 am - Replied by: Anointed4u2

Forgiveness first, yes hard but asking God to help you, I will be praying for you and your sons, Anointed

Jan 11 2007, 1:41 pm - Replied by: redraefirefly

Thank you all so much for the wisdom and support ... their father for the first time today said he was feeling a little better .... the kids are in school right now ..although they are throwing up every couple of days, it is getting better.  I tell them i love them all the time now more so than ever. the boy was arrested yesterday and for the first time i feel something other than rage... i found out there was past abuse.... i hope and pray he will also get the help he needs.... my children will soon start with counsling with people specially trained.... i am looking around for a church ... one that i can feel comfortable with have a few hopefuls..

thanks again for the support....

Through god you all have come to my aid when i needed it the most ....

GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!!

Jan 12 2007, 2:36 pm - Replied by: PROPHETIC_MINISTRIES

redraefirefly wrote: Friday night I found out my son was being molested by a 12 boy i watch... did all the right things....called police, ambulance, ... everyone. my home is falling apart. My son's father walked in on it and he doesn't sleep, eat,... he is broken. Both of my son's keep throwing up and have no flu symptoms.... I am fantasizing about murdering the other boy who I have known since birth. The four of us(my family) need urgent prayers.... the tears keep flowing. HOW DO WE EVEN BEGIN TO HEAL?

II had been abused believe this world is being judged for this I encourage you right now to seek the Lord say to the Lord I know this has happen but I need to forgive the other person If you don't iit will hound you all your life. Jesus I ask you to reach down and touch the son right now bring him into forgiveness, bring him close to you as he seeks the word, allow him to be healed by the blood of Jesus Christ I pray for unity in the house bring the family closer to you and the truth will set them free In Yeshua