Aug 29 2006, 10:20 am - By rucrownd

I really don't want to go very much into detail, but I had an instance where in my commitment to God, I stumbled and now I'm sufferring the repercussions of that. So this other person who eased me into stumbling is trying to contact me again. I don't really know that I'd like to be friends with him, even though I was really close to him. He was dishonest with me and still to this day claims he didn't know, but a VERY good friend of mine told me he's known for over 2 years. I don't know what to do. I've told him I'm not sure that I really should be friends. Our friendship makes my boyfriend uneasy and i've told him that. He doesn't understand how I can think about having a boyfriend with my condition and have the guy stick around. I'm almost too angry to explain it all to him. He tells me as a Christian I shouldn't stoop so low as to assume he knew he had it and that he owes me an explanation. This affects my whole life. From now, to my future husband and my future children. They can all contract this..... I really I don't know what to do. I'm meeting with one of the youth pastors I know on wednesday to discuss this semester in youth group, but I'm kind of nervous to talk to her about this. Even if she does know.

Aug 29 2006, 11:57 am - Replied by: wabbit268

I would not pursue a friendship with him. Just for the simply fact that it is very difficult to leave behind feelings and emotions that were once there. If it dies make your boyfriend uneasy, that would be reason #2 for me. I have had very limited contact with people I have dated before, but I have always been very open about conversations that we had with my fiance. The reason being this: you do not want to create any doubt whatsoever in your boyfriend's mind that you might be thinking about someone else, even if it is totally benign and you guys never did anything again. To be blunt honest this guy sounds like a dirtbag. This has apparantly done a great deal of damage to your heart and relationship with God. I would tell this guy that you have got to get a lot worked out in your heart and with God before the 2 of you could be friends. If he doesn't accept that, well too bad. I hope your new bf is a better man than this guy. Don't allow him to trivialize your feelings and make you feel like you are the "bad guy". God forgives all sin, but unfortunatly that does not remove the natural consequences as you are well aware. This will be a great struggle, but one that, by God's grace you will overcome.

Aug 29 2006, 12:16 pm - Replied by: TheJesusBeliever

I am praying for you, I know those ties are hard to break, but know that Jesus is not all fire and brimstone when you make a mistake. The Lord is loving and forgiving of His children, that is why He sent us Jesus. I am mostly worried about your walk with the Lord. It is important to stay close to Him, when you abide in the Father, He abides in you. Have you given everything fully to Jesus? Because He has a purpose and plan for your life that will work the glory of the Lord, just hang in there, turn it over to Jesus fully and watch Him take it and make it good. I know it is easier said than done, but I will be praying that Jesus will take you in His arms and heal you and set you free. Praying in Him, Marci