God designed the universe to function with natural and spiritual laws that bring freedom when obeyed, but bondage and destruction when broken and violated. (Blessing and Cursing)

Soul ties are exactly what they sound like. They are ties from one person's soul to (or into) another person's soul.  Two souls can be knit or made to cleave together in a covenant relationship; they can also be tied or knit together to form bondage and enslavement.

God created the human to be made up of three parts: Body, Soul and Spirit.  You cannot focus on any one without taking into account the other two because there is so much overlap between all three. We can relate at any of these three levels.

Let's go through an example of a man relating with a woman.    Let's say that Harry meets Sally, and they work at the same place.  Well, as he casually walks past her and says, "Hi," and as he works alongside her during the day, he is relating to her primarily on a "physical" level (Note: A lot of people say that sex is just  “physical” but that is not what we mean by "physical."  We shouldn’t think of sex that way, but we’ll cover that later.)

After a few months of working with Sally, Harry really starts to like her and wants to get to know her better, so he asks her out on a date. They go out and he finds out more about her.  They go out again.  Then they start sharing more and more about their hopes and dreams and their hurts and disappointments.  Now they are relating at the Soul level, which is typically described as being made up of the mind, will and emotions.  They are actually developing a "soul tie", because they are relating at the Soul level.

Because they are Christians, Harry and Sally start to pray together and seek Jesus together. They are now relating on a spiritual level, because they are inviting the Lord to be a part of their relationship. Through prayer and through praise and worship at the same church, etc., they are communicating spirit to spirit through the Lord.

All three of these types or levels of relationship can occur between two friends, between co-workers and co-church members, between brother and sister, parent and child and husband and wife. The husband and wife relationship, however, is the relationship where all three of these types of "relating" is the most intimate and most intense. Genesis 2:24 says: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."  Make no mistake about it, sexual union involves all three parts of your being - body, soul and spirit.

God designed it that way; it is not "just" a physical act - never has been, never will be!   The reason the Lord honors the marriage relationship so much is that it best reflects His love for us - and Christ's love for the church. Please read Ephesians 5:22-32 where Paul is talking about how the marriage relationship explains the 'profound mystery' of Christ's relationship with the church.

Other biblical examples of "soul ties" include: Naomi and Ruth (Mother and Daughter-in-law) and Jonathan and David (Friends). Please read Ruth Chapter 1 and I Samuel 18:1, and I Samuel Chapters 19 and 20.   These are examples of Godly relationships and Godly "soul ties."   

So we have established that there are soul ties (healthy ones and unhealthy ones) and there are soul ties that are created with and without a sexual union.

If it is sex in the confines of marriage (with your spouse, of course) it is a healthy soul tie that is being created and strengthened; however, any (and I do mean ANY) sexual union (physical, fantasy or otherwise) that is NOT with your spouse will ALWAYS create an unhealthy (wrong, sinful, unnatural, not God's will) soul tie. These soul ties are intimate bonds to another human being that were never intended by the Lord.

So many single people want to get married, but they are not ready because they have to get themselves prepared for the bridegroom, and the most important thing is getting rid of the old and allow the new to come forth. If you go into a marriage with your past not put behind and all the ties severed, the enemy will try to bring them back.

Please read I Corinthians 6:12-20 where Paul talks about sexual immorality and why it is a bad thing. One of his points is that if you have sex with a prostitute, you will become "one flesh" (Body, Soul and Spirit) with him or her. You will be joined body, soul and spirit and as a consequence, you have now formed an intimate bond or "soul tie" with that person. Remember, sex is an act of all three parts of your body.

Working with abused women I know that the dominion a soul tie gives a man over his lover is often so binding that he can insult and mistreat her but she seems helplessly enslaved to him. Many women will tolerate all kinds of abuse and they won’t understand why: They end up hating themselves, because they don’t understand about soul ties. Whenever you hate yourself it is hard to give real love or receive real love.

I don’t care how much you love someone or believe that they love you, God does not ordain sex before marriage.  God’s blessing cannot be on that relationship.  

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18-20

I’ve seen so many women devastated when a man leaves them and they don’t know why they can’t forget them or get over them (and vice versa).  They say, “I just can’t let go!”  You have a soul tie!  You have been bonded!  Body, Soul and Spirit - all three are involved.  Sadly, this scene is repeated way too often in our culture today. May the Lord help us to keep us pure! Only by His grace will we avoid this terrible tragedy.  They want to move on and find love, but they can’t let go of the past.

Let me share an illustration with you.  It will show that before we can cleave, (be tied to) someone new, we have to let go of the old first.

When a woman becomes pregnant she carries the baby inside of her for nine months, and during that time her and the baby are one. The umbilical cord is connected from the mother to the baby. The baby receives all the nutrients from the mother. They are one at that time. They have to go everywhere together. Even when the mother experiences stress, anger, bitterness, and other things, the baby will be affected.

Once the baby is born, the mother and the baby are still connected together, because of the umbilical cord.  There is a procedure that has to be done to separate the two. The umbilical cord has to be cut, and when this happens the baby can begin its new life. 

I think that this is a great example of what God is trying to show us about being soul tied.  You have to cut and sever all old ties before you start your new life. You can see the importance in severing the spiritual umbilical cord from those in the past. As long as you are connected in the soul with someone from the past, it is hard to move forward.

There is HOPE and that is Jesus. If you make him the Lord of your life and serve Him with all your heart, you can and will be set free if you believe and receive. You can be set totally free if you allow God to set you free.  God, in His mercy and grace, has made a way for us to be cleansed from all of this unrighteousness and to start over. We need to literally break the unhealthy soul ties that we have made with other people; regardless of whether we have physically had sex with them or if we just imagined it in our mind or looked at pornography while masturbating. We need to proclaim (by the authority of Christ in us), with our mouths - out loud, that we renounce and break, once and for all, the soul tie with that person (playmate or otherwise) and ask Jesus' blood to cleanse us. This will break the soul tie and free you/me from the unhealthy bond with the other person.

I John 1:9 - "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify/cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 

John 8:36 "If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed "

You may think this is just "spiritual hocus-pocus", but I assure you that it is not. I have heard and seen stories of men and women who continue to be drawn to and have feelings for the other person even though they don’t’ see each other any long or may even be married to someone else! The unhealthy soul tie continues to attract them to other people.  I have also been there before I sold out totally to God.  I had to break soul ties with people in my past, but, praise God, He freed me!

A Prayer for Breaking Soul Ties:

Let us pray in faith, receiving:

Father, in the name of JESUS, I submit my soul, my desires and my emotions to your Spirit. I confess, as sin, all my promiscuous, premarital sexual relationships and all sexual relationships outside of marriage. I confess all my ungodly spirit, soul, and body ties as sin. I thank you for forgiving me and cleansing me right now!

“Father, I thank you for giving me the keys of your kingdom, the keys of spiritual authority.  Your Word says that what I bind on earth is bound in heaven and what I loose on earth is loosed in heaven. In Jesus name, I ask you to loose me from all soul ties to past partners and ungodly relationships. Please uproot all the tentacles of sexual bondage, of emotional longings and dependencies, and enslaving thoughts. I bind, renounce and resist any evil spirits that have reinforced those soul ties or may have been transferred to me through evil associations.

Abba Father, in Jesus' mighty name, I ask you to shut any doorways of demonic access opened into my life by ungodly soul ties or any other sort of sexual sin, and I ask you to seal those doorways forever with the Blood of the Lamb, shed on the cross of Calvary. I thank you for doing this.

Please cleanse my soul and help me to forget all illicit unions so that I am free to give my soul totally to my mate that You give to me. Father, I receive your forgiveness for all past sex sins. I believe I am totally forgiven. Thank you for remembering my sins no more. Thank you for cleansing me from all unrighteousness. I commit myself to you by your grace; please keep me holy in my spirit, soul, and body. I praise you.  In Jesus’ name. AMEN.

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