1 John 2:15-17
Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world, If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
Reality Check:
ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS. TRY LOOKING IN THE MIRROR WHEN DOING SO. YOU JUST MIGHT BE SURPRISED WHO YOU SEE STARING BACK AT YA'
(1). Who are you when the lights are turned way down low?
(2). Are you spending too much time in the face of someone other than your spouse?
(3). Always sneaking out telling your wife/husband "I'm just meeting up with the boys/girls?"
(4). Lying that you have a late business meeting at the office and not to wait up?
(5). Your lies and excuses will catch up to you one day.
Proverbs 5:1-13 My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.
For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.
Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them. Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth.
Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!
Many married people don't understand that a chemical reaction can occur with people other than their mates. Don't misunderstand me here I'm not just talking about sexual attraction. I'm referring to a reaction of two hearts, the chemistry of two souls.
This is emotional adultery an intimacy with the opposite sex outside the marriage. Emotional adultery is unfaithfulness of the heart. When two people begin talking of intimate struggles, doubts or feelings, they may be sharing their souls in a way that God intended exclusively for the marriage relationship.
****Emotional adultery is friendship with the opposite sex that has progressed too far.***
You've got a need you feel your mate isn't meeting-a need for attention, approval or affection, for example. You find it easier to unwind with someone other than your spouse by dissecting the day's difficulties over lunch, coffee or a ride home.
You begin to talk about problems you are having with your spouse.
You rationalize the propriety of this relationship with the opposite sex by saying that surely it must be God's will to talk so openly and honestly with a fellow Christian.
You look forward to being with this person more than with your own mate.
You hide the relationship from your mate.
When you find yourself connecting with another person as a substitute, you've started traveling a road that ends too often in adultery and divorce. But how do you protect yourself to keep this from occurring?
Know your boundaries. You should put fences around your heart that protect sacred ground, reserved only for your spouse.
Be willing to share your deepest feelings, needs and difficulties with each other, and not with friends of the opposite sex. Realize the power of your eyes. As has been said, your eyes are the windows to your heart.
Pull the shades down if you sense someone is pausing a little too long in front of your windows.
Beware of isolation and concealment. One strategy of the enemy is to isolate you from your spouse, especially by inducing you to keep secrets from your mate. Extinguish chemical reactions that have already begun.
Prayer: That God will give you wisdom to know when you might be risking a "chemical reaction."
Discuss: In what situations can Christians find themselves committing emotional adultery?
In His Love,
Minister Nina
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